Reasons You Should Say Rape Doesnt Define Me

By Diane Carter


Life is full of terrors, and sometimes some of them leave folks regretting the whole of their life. It is always essential to note that regretting for something that you cannot change will not change a thing. In case you have gone through an ordeal you will live to remember the whole of your life, make sure that it does not affect how you do you things. Here are reasons you ought to say that rape doesnt define me and move on.

It makes sense to beat yourself up for the things that you caused knowingly. However, if something happens and you are not the cause, or you just cause it unknowingly, there is no need to blame yourself. There are better things you can do in life and prevent such incidents from happening to you or to other people in the future.

No one can tell that you were raped by looking at you. However, if you beat yourself and you get depressed, then you are likely to attract the attention of even those who could not have been concerned if you continued with your activities as usual. So, do not start unnecessary attention by letting the incident define who you are.

If you were born out of such circumstances, do not give people reasons to reject you. Very few people are born while the parents are willing. Some guys tend to think that since their parents were not willing to deliver them, then they are not wanted in the community, and they become criminals. The way you think about yourself that is what you will become.

If you want folks to respect, you start by respecting yourself first. This is to say that how you act and speak determines how folks will behave towards you. Thus, if you look depressed because you were raped sometime back, then people will be thinking that you are a victim and every time they see you they will be thinking of rape.

Do not give the criminals a reason to smile. In most cases people rape others as a form of revenge. Their main objective is to see you suffer for the rest of your life. If they realize you were not affected by the incident, they will start feeling guilty, and they will never heal. Thus, accepting and moving on is the best form of revenge for you.

Another thing to know is that a person should accept anything in this world. People have gone through tragedies that cannot be forgotten even a single moment. For example, people die, and children are left helpless. So, when you know that you are not alone, you will have a reason to smile.

Finally, it is evident that getting sexual assault is a traumatizing thing despise of whether it was a person you loved or not. However, it is not the problem that will dress you but how you treat that problem. If you realize you have many things to smile about than those you have to feel sorry about, then your life is likely to be determined by your mindset.




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