Men With Borderline Personality Disorder Show Common Behaviors Loved Ones Will Recognize

By George Sullivan


There are all kinds of people in the world, and they all have personalities. Some people are more difficult than others. It can be a mental health issue or just a tendency to be thoughtless and self-serving. People with mental disorders don't always process their thoughts in healthy ways. If you have a loved one who craves approval for himself, but has no empathy for others and won't take responsibility for his own actions, he may fall into the category of men with borderline personality disorder, BPD.

Some mentally ill people are highly functioning. They might seem to have everything together until you get to know them well. Other people are at the opposite end of the spectrum. They can't function without their daily medication to keep them going. It is no different for males who have BPD. If you have any hope of understanding how your partner thinks, you need to be aware of the signs of the disease.

People with BPD have low self-esteem. It often manifests itself as craving approval and attention from everyone around them. They might copy others' behaviors. BPD sufferers do this because they don't have sufficient faith, or trust, in themselves. Although they don't always act like it, these individuals have deep feelings of inferiority. They don't think independently. Instead the things they say and do are the things they believe others want to see and hear.

People who have BPD are not empathetic. They aren't concerned about what other people want or need. These individuals don't have any sense of how the things they do affect the people around them. Their sense of awareness isn't fully developed. It is not a coincidence that they have trouble maintaining healthy relationships.

Many BPD sufferers repeatedly fall into negative and destructive relationships. Physical and mental abuse is not unusual. Borderlines can be needy and mistrusting to an excessive degree. They may swing from overly close to completely distant and uninvolved. It's not only romantic partners that experience this phenomenon. Friends and family are the victims of it too.

If your partner has BPD excessive anxiety will be a problem for him. This goes beyond the normal feelings on anxiousness that most people experience on occasion. He might become hypersensitive to the way others act when they are around him. It's easy for him to feel threatened and lash out because of how badly he wants to be accepted.

BPD sufferers are terrified of being abandoned or left alone. This can lead them to become intensely jealous and paranoid. They sometimes accuse partners of behavior that has no rational basis. It's not unusual for them to stalk a partner or monitor their comings and goings. Those suffering from BPD may threaten to kill themselves if the partner doesn't comply with their irrational demands.

Mood swings and uncontrollable anger are two major signs of this disease. BPD sufferers blame everyone else for their shortcomings. They can be impulsive and prone to risky behaviors. Ten percent of people diagnosed with the disorder commit suicide. That's four hundred times higher than the national average.




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