Making Progress With Grief Counseling

By Jason Hughes


Losing a loved one can be extremely traumatic. You will go through many different emotions that range from guilt, anger, self blame and much sadness of course. This is not easy to deal with on your own. In fact, when you attempt to handle these emotions on your own, you may never find a way to cope. The pain will ease up over time, and it will even be difficult with grief counseling. However, with therapy, you will find that it can be easier to deal with.

It is very traumatic for the person who loses someone, especially when it happens by means of a car accident or during a kidnapping. This can affect you for the rest of your life unless you receive support. People who do receive counselling, however, will begin to see that there is a light at the other end of the tunnel. They will work in different ways so that post traumatic stress disorder does not become overwhelming for them and take over their lives.

Working with other people in a group can be very helpful because you begin to see that there are others that are in the same boat. People don't always get the same out of individual therapy because they feel that the therapist has not been through what they have been through.

It could be the fact that you depended on a spouse and you had a very good relationship with them. You may feel at a loss. You will also need to handle your finances at this point. In addition to this, you will also have small children that need attention. They need to be nurtured because they will also be going through a lot of issues that need to be dealt with.

When you lose someone like this, you can go through a range of different feelings and emotions which will go up and down from one day to another. Sometimes you will feel like blaming God. Other days you will become angry and blame the person who has died. Then you will feel bad and blame yourself and become depressed, feeling a lot of sorrow in your life. This can continue for days. It is important to be able to express this in therapy. Besides group therapy, sometimes you will be able to focus on practical methods as well as something more creative.

There are people who don't lose a loved one, but it can relate to someone that they have not even met before. However, it can also be traumatic because they may have witnessed a murder. They would have been exposed to a robbery or a kidnapping. This is obviously traumatic. It needs to be taken care of.

When you find that it is affecting the way in which you relate to others at work and in the home environment, you definitely need to talk to someone about this. You may even be referred to a psychiatrist. Medication can be helpful. But it is necessary on a temporary basis.

You begin to connect on this basis. People build relationships based on the way they feel with one another. They may find that friends and individual therapists don't understand what they are going through. This is the reason for a group.




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