The Significance Of Developing Self Love

By Susan Cooper


Developing the outward appearance is something that most people work towards. This will include working on your job performance, your hobbies and your various skills in life. It may be your relationship with your children and your partner. However, very few people look towards the inside appearance which involves developing self love.

When you have compassion for yourself, you are be able to have more empathy for others. You will be able to lead a healthy lifestyle. You will have rewarding and fulfilling relationships. You shall get the most out of life. You begin to see what is most important in life by focusing on the inner appearance instead of what people see on the outside.

You may love your husband or your wife. However, to avoid complications in your relationship the first thing you have to do is to love yourself. It does not come overnight. It will obviously depend on the person and what they have been through in life. For someone who has been emotionally abused, they will find that this can lead to a low sense of self esteem, and this will be more difficult to work through.

Therapists will agree that the first thing to focus on is self care. This is something that psychologists tell patients who are suffering from depression or anxiety. It is important to look in the mirror everyday and appreciate your outward appearance. You may benefit from a new hair cut, you will be refreshed after you have been to the gym or you turn to a diet that makes you feel good about yourself.

It is more difficult to be kind to yourself when you have been emotionally abused. This will be drilled into the brain from a young age. However, it is important to change these negative thought patterns. Often, this requires intense therapy. It can be a slow process, but one needs to be patient. Over time, clients begin to improve and this is obviously encouraging.

There are practical ways in dealing with this. It is important to have a routine where you begin to incorporate things like exercise and a healthy diet into your life. Meditation and yoga will help you to release some of these negative emotions. It will also provide you with a sense of peace. Spending quality time by yourself in positive atmosphere will allow you to absorb this type of energy into your body.

Get to know more about your unique character. Everyone has a character that is unique to them. It is important not to compare this with anyone else. Weight up your strengths and what can come out of this. Remember there are people that may have strengths, but you may not be able to see their weak points and this is something to take into consideration.

Of course, you will have bad days. This is only natural. However, this is the time when you must surround yourself with positive people who are able to encourage you. You also need to talk to yourself in a positive way. This will avoid negative self talk to crop up which can obviously bring you down and result in a set back.




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